accepting one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive.

Colossians 3:13

My wife’s favorite phrase is ” forgive and forget.” I used to hate that phrase because it never made since to me. How could I forget what someone has done to me. I could be cordial with people but never let them get that close to me again. Over some years,  I’ve come to find out it’s not necessarily forgetting the hurt but not letting the hurt eat me alive. I had to tell my wife I understood what she was saying and she went on a rant about how women are always right and blah, blah, blah.

Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how many times could my brother sin against me and I forgive him? As many as seven times? ” “I tell you, not as many as seven,” Jesus said to him, “but 70 times seven.

Matthew 18:21‭-‬22 

So, how does this forgive and forget thing work. The forgive part is that you acknowledge that someone or some situation has caused hurt in your life. And you proclaim with words or to yourself that your letting the pain go. The forget part is not holding on to a grudge. When peter ask jesus “Lord, how many times could my brother sin against me and I forgive him? As many as seven times? ” “I tell you, not as many as seven,” Jesus said to him, “but 70 times seven. If you’re not holding a grudge against someone you would not have a problem forgiving someone. God never intended for us to hoard our pain but to give our anxiety to Him because  cares He for us. ( I’m not saying that you should let people take advantage of you but don’t let that pain stay with you.) The way I learned how to deal with grudges is to control what thoughts come into my mind. The way you think often determine your actions. Whenever a unforgiving thought come to my mind I quickly tell myself ” I don’t think that way anymore”. The worst thing you could do is to let that thought create strongholds within you. Rebuke the unforgiving spirit and live in the love of God.


God bless